As a mother, I am forever trying to find a system that works. Discovering better ways to run things can really change your life.
Take television, for example. Years ago my kids were watching TV every day after school for an hour or more. Then they began on their homework, bleary eyed and foggy brained. It was my sister who passed along her rule of no screens on school nights. Implementing that system tightened up our daily routine, and on Fridays they all look forward to the screens of their choice.
Getting the dishes done was another area that was sinking me. The bigger our family got, the longer the dishes took. When washing dishes til after 7:00 was becoming routine, I enlisted the kids to help. First I tried announcing, "When it is your night to say the blessing, it is your night to help with the dishes." Captain Fun nixed it though, wanting the kids to look forward to saying grace instead of associating it with their turn to wash dishes. Fair enough. I don't call him Captain Fun for nothing.
Then I tried to assign the dishes according to birth order. Child number one would wash dishes on Monday, the second born on Tuesday, and so forth. But when you have more kids than days of the week, that won't work either. Even I can do that math.
Now that I am down to six kids at home I have finally figured out the simple system of alternating boys night/girls night. With three of each left at home, it's fast and fair. (In case you're wondering, yes, Captain Fun helps on boys' night.)
But the one system I have found that has changed my life more than anything else is getting up about an hour before the kids--now that they are all sleeping all night--for my devotions. I make the coffee first thing, pray while it's brewing, pour myself a cup and read a passage. Did you know there are 31 chapters in Proverbs and 31 days in most months? Divine wisdom in that book.
Prayer and Bible reading has been my lifeline since I was just a kid. Psalm 119:105 says "Your word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path."
A lamp and a light. You won't find anything more life changing than that.