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A Tough Task

One of my new friends from the bus stop had to have foot surgery last week.   In a lot of pain for a long time, she finally went in for an x-ray and,  much to her surprise, discovered her foot was broken.  Not only was surgery a must, but the doctor said she cannot walk on it for over a month.
On Friday, I met her husband, who had baby in tow, at the bus stop.  I introduced myself and told him I was bringing dinner over that weekend, and daughter, Emma, would be helping them out, to boot.  He thanked me, 7 month old in his arms,  three year old around his leg and his two other kids, kindergarten and first grade, in the bus line.  He still had a smile on his face as he told us that until the in-laws arrived and he returned to work on Tuesday, he was playing Super Dad.  He admitted uncertainty as to what his sanity status would be by then.
I told him about my blog and warned it was going to be very hard for me not to blog about his temporary role.  "Go right ahead," he said  (I love it when people say that). He even added another detail just so I would have plenty to go on. "We have friends with five kids; she works, he stays home.  Today I told her to go hug her husband."  He laughed.  The moms laughed.  We all got it:  Staying home with kids is hard
A privilege? Yes. A blessing? Yes.  A gift?  Yes. Easy? 
I remember back when I was homeschooling over a decade ago. It was my first year, and my September birthday fell on a school day.  Just like I still frequently hear from my kids, I didn't want to do school on my birthday.  Nothing they can do about it--public, private or home school--they have to go. I, on the other hand, had options.  I called on Captain Fun.  "Would you take a day off work so I can have my birthday off from school?" 
He said he would be glad to.  What else would Captain Fun say? 
I shopped.  I lunched.  And I am sure I went to the bookstore and envisioned all of the books I would some day write.  I confess, I still do that. 
When I came home, Captain Fun was still in his sweats from the night before. His hair was a wreck and he had spit up on his shirt. "I am exhausted," he said.  "I did not sit down the entire day and I only got a twenty minute nap."
My hair was combed.  My shirt was clean.  I couldn't contain myself:  I let out a laugh.  A chuckle.  Okay, a guffaw--which I immediately explained to the Captain.
"You look like me, and I look like you."  We both roared with laughter.  He is, after all, Captain Fun. 
And since Captain Fun, himself, declared that staying home with small children is a tough task, well, that's all the proof I've ever needed.  It has helped me stop comparing myself to other moms.  Whether you stay at home or work outside the home, mothering is one tough task.  

8 Comments to A Tough Task:

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Rose on Monday, October 08, 2012 11:10 AM
Yes, some of them do get it! My husband often said that he would never trade places with me - front line duty at home was much more difficult than going to work. Hope she recuperates quickly!
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margie on Friday, October 12, 2012 9:15 AM
Her husband agrees!

jennifer fay on Monday, October 08, 2012 11:22 AM
Nice post. I didn't realize you blogged. Looks nice.
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margie on Friday, October 12, 2012 9:15 AM
Thanks, Jennifer!

Debbie on Monday, October 08, 2012 11:57 AM
Posting on Mark's facebook! He needs to read this! He is full time Dad for the near future while Jeri goes to work! Love ya Sister - you only speak the truth!
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margie on Friday, October 12, 2012 9:14 AM
Thank you once again, my most loyal reader. Know Mark will agree with me...well, I hope, anyway!

Suzanne Raggio on Tuesday, October 09, 2012 10:22 AM
Knowing you both, as I have in the past, I got a great mental image of Robert as you so vividly described him! Love your blog! I totally agree with you. The 5 years that I stayed home were both wonderful and at the same time difficult. You were a wonderful friend and support in that! Miss you, but perhaps keeping up with you in your blog will be like old times! Tell Robert Bobby says "HI!"
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margie on Friday, October 12, 2012 9:13 AM
Hey Suzanne so glad to hear from you. What great memories I have of us in that young married's SS class! Will pass on Bobby's HI to Robert. Glad you like the blog!

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